Several commenters said it's typical of women to be the 'silent fixer.'
I've heard that, too.
I'm pretty sure that is NOT my problem.
These same commenters asked if I had made my ambitions known and/or asked to be promoted.
Yes, yes I have.
No, no it has not helped.
In fact, it got me branded Arrogant. And got me nowhere.
Apparently, my ambitions exceed my perceived (Note the qualifier!) abilities/achievements, and that means Arrogant.
At least for women.
I think there is some magical formula whereby if women are:
Extremely Nice + Sufficiently Self-Promoting + Gently Express Ambition = Success!
Maybe. Maybe it's not that simple. But I've seen a lot more success from women who fit the stereotype, at least outwardly, of being soft-spoken and shy, who suddenly learn to stand up for themselves and then everyone is impressed ==> Maybe she had it in her all along but we're so proud for bringing it out of her! She gets a JOB!
I think my problem is that my personality is not sufficiently Feminine:
Nice When I Can Muster It + Inconsistently Self-Promoting + Openly Ambitious = Arrogant.
Also, if anyone ever actually TOOK my advice, I'd be The Fixer.
Instead, I am just the wacko in the corner who makes suggestions everyone ignores. And that often includes PI.
Yesterday I reminded PI of something I had suggested a long time ago. THIS time it was a GOOD idea, apparently, but I actually got in TROUBLE because PI couldn't REMEMBER my having suggested it before!
I love it when I get blamed for not nagging often enough, to make up for other people's cluelessness & senility.
When I nag too often, I'm told I'm being Very Pushy.
Dr. J, that company job is sounding pretty darn good.