No reply necessary
A couple of my informal mentors emailed recently to ask how I'm doing, how things are going, and so on (they don't know I have a blog!).
In both cases I responded pretty openly, saying
yeah things have been nightmarish but a couple of things are better, even though I'm still not where I want to be with my life.
And you know, I'm just trying to keep a sense of humor about the worst parts.
Neither one replied. It has been, I don't know, two weeks.
I want to email them and say
um, guys? Why bother emailing to ask how I'm doing, if you
a) don't want to know?
b) can't be bothered to tell me how you're doing or actually give me any advice?
And does it actually, I don't know, assuage your guilt to at least check in? Or was this to settle some kind of bet about whether I've quit science yet?
And then I realized, actually I don't need these people to reply. If they have no advice, that's fine.
I get plenty of advice and support from the blogosphere.
To those of you fellow bloggers who are always telling me to keep going, thanks. I've learned a lot from reading your blogs and comments here.