What Female Friends Say About You
So I have this friend who doesn't have that many other female friends. Actually, I have more than one female friend for whom I'm possibly the only female friend. Now, I never thought much of that because we're all scientists, these are people I met in grad school, which was the one time in my life when I had more than a handful of close female friends. But a guy she went out with recently made some comment about her lack of female friends is a 'bad sign'. I'm not sure of what. Lack of free time? Lack of interest in knitting?
Then today I was watching Judging Amy (yes, I am still trying to Relax), and noticed that none of the female characters on the show have friends other than family members.
Is this part of the Bitch mythology? That professional women don't have time for friends? Or that we can't relate to each other-?
My thought for the day is to go give your girlfriend a hug. Commiserate. Find something not-too-girly to do together.
Labels: women
posted by Ms.PhD @ 3:44 PM
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Actually, for what it's worth, Amy did have a female friend for the first few seasons: a fellow judge who ended up dying of cancer. The moral of the story being, it's ok to have friends, just don't expect to hang onto them through sweeps week.
In any event, might it have something to do with the field a given woman is in? Coming from a fairly gender-balanced field (linguistics), most of my friends-who-are-also-colleagues are female. In fact, the close male friends I have, I've had to meet elsewhere. In the hard sciences, or for that matter, the law (getting back to Amy), there may just be fewer women to choose from.
BotanicalGirl is absolutely right- she is the type who tends to abuse her boyfriends by making them carry her entire emotional burden.
I don't know if it has anything to do with what field you're in. And I had no idea Amy had a female friend in the first few seasons- how come they never re-run those episodes?
They re-ran those episodes (on TNT) last summer, if I recall correctly; perhaps they haven't gotten back around to them yet. *smile*
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